If your Mum and Dad are divorced, wedding planning often becomes slightly trickier. And if either or both parents are remarried, you now have even more key players involved in the big day including an additional mother of the bride.
No matter what type of relationship you have with your stepmom, it’s a nice gesture to bring her into the fold and make sure to include her in wedding planning if she is not the “FADEYI OLORO” kind 😜😂😂 (we’re all sure it could mean a lot to some!). Of course, you’ll simultaneously have to make sure to carefully tow that part so you don’t cross the line with your own mum peradventure they are both estranged..especially in this part of the world where wedding days are avenues that mothers and mother in-laws use to oppress one another and exhibit affluence and “who get crowd pass than the other” drama… Are you surprised…? 😜 I am a photographer naaa and our eyes dey see things for events gann ooo..I no talk anything sha oo 🤐😋😁…So this is a balancing act that requires the Grace of God and some emotional intelligence skills.
So how can you go about including your stepmom in the big day without making your own mother feel slighted?
Just as you should when delegating any wedding-related tasks, play to your family members’ strengths.. for example, if one parent is style conscious while the other is a master at balancing budgets, put those skills to work. Let’s say your Stepmom is amazing with numbers and she’s known as a killer negotiator…have Her be the one to examine the vendor contracts. If, on the other hand, she’s a DIY master, ask her to help whip up some creative decor elements. Think about not only where she brings value, but what she loves to do.
So will you or did you include your stepmum in the planning process of your wedding…? Please share your thoughts and contributions 😉
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